If you want to turn up the heat or cool down in the bedroom, temperature play will introduce an entirely new world of pleasure! So what is temperature play, and how can you use it to have fun responsibly?
What is temperature play?
Have you ever used an ice cube to tease your partner in bed? If so, you’ve already tried temperature play! This is an incredibly simple and safe kink that can switch up your regular bedroom activities. It involves the use of hot or cold temperatures to create entirely new sensations.
When you use certain items and even sex toys to increase the heat or cold, you can stimulate thousands of sensitive nerves. Moreover, you can try temperature play on any erogenous zone. But you’ll need to know some safety basics plus some tricks that will make this kink feel amazing!
What do I need?
Anyone can try temperature play, regardless of if you’re into vanilla sex or BDSM. One of the best ways to play around with different temperatures is to use sex toys. You can heat up or cool down most sex toys and use them around and inside your genitals. This works best with LG shop’s glass or metal toys like butt plugs or dildos. But you can also warm up or cool down your silicone toys. Alternatively, you can try basic items like ice cubes, cold spoons, and candles. Regardless of your weapon of choice, the point is to switch up the temperature and feel it changing along with your body heat.
Too hot to handle
Higher temperatures can bring more blood to the skin’s surface. This boosts sensitivity and creates a unique tingling sensation. Regardless of what you use, the unique sensation will come when the skin cools naturally. You can even blow air on your partner’s skin to intensify this sensation. Overall, there are many types of hot temperature play. They include:
- Wax or candle play — the most common method is to pour melted candle wax over your partner’s body. This works wonders on the back, thighs, breasts, etc.
- Warming lube — you can use warming lubes that heat up during external or internal use.
- Warm sex toys — you can warm up your sex toys in hot water. This works best with silicone, steel, or glass toys.
- Fire cupping — this is an intense form of temperature play for experienced kinksters. It involves the use of a glass heating cup that sucks the skin up and creates a strong vacuum.
- Fire play — there are many other forms of fire play, but they are quite dangerous. Beginners should avoid them for their safety.
Play it safe
You can burn yourself or damage your sex toys if you’re not careful. To proceed with caution, just ease into it. Never try anything that you’re not comfortable with. Plus, always test the temperature before you play.
If you want to use toys, the best material is glass. It is more resistant to thermal shock. Also, it can also cool down quicker. This can come in handy if the toy feels too hot. The best method is to put your toy in an airtight bag and submerge it in warm water. Do not microwave your glass dildo!
Moreover, if you intend to use wax, make sure you use the right type of candle. Drip or massage oil candles are recommended as they burn at lower temperatures. Also, you should always test the wax before you play to make sure that no one will get burned. Above all, keep it away from your ears, eyes, and especially your urethra as it can cause infections. If you overdo hot play, you could hurt your skin or even suffer heat stroke, dehydration, heart failure, and fainting.
Cold play can desensitize your skin. Then, as the blood rushes back naturally to the skin, you will feel a unique hot/cool sensation. Here are some of the main cold play techniques:
- Ice cubes — running ice cubes along your or your partner’s skin is quite kinky. It can create temporary cooling sensations. You can also suck on ice cubes and kiss your partner or give them oral sex for intense sensations.
- Cool sex toys — cooling down your sex toys in a bowl of ice water will create intense cold play sensations.
- Cooling lubricants — this type of lubricant produces a cooling effect in your external and internal erogenous zones.
- Ice cream — using ice cream is a fun way to turn down the heat on your nipples and other external areas.
- Cold foods — you can also use frozen fruit or other cold foods to achieve unique sensations. The trick is to use your body heat to melt those foods and lick them up after for a tasty treat!
- Cold shower — if you can handle it, take a cold shower and have sex under the cold water!
Play it safe
The biggest concern here is using ice or foods that are too cold. To stay safe, you should let your ice or other items warm up slightly before using them. If they are too cold, they could stick to your skin and ultimately cause injury when you remove them. The same thing could happen with your sex toys. In this case, you also risk damaging them.
What’s more, the best way to test the temperature is to test the ice cube, toy, or another object against your arm first. Another pro tip is to avoid leaving your glass toys in the freezer for too long. That way, your sex toy will not get damaged. Additionally, if you are planning on using ice cream or frozen fruit, keep it away from your genitals. The sugar in those foods could cause a yeast infection in your vagina.
Finally, don’t go overboard. If the temperature is too low, you could risk ice burns and hypothermia.
Time to play!