The Psychology Behind Breakup Sex

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Parting ways with someone you love and care for is never easy. You don’t need to watch melodramatic movies or listen to heartbreaking songs to know this. It’s just an unfortunate fact of adult life. However, sometimes, there’s that bittersweet part we secretly cherish and hold so dearly for years later.

Of course, we’re talking about breakup sex. It’s a topic of so many works of art, and it’s simply unavoidable. You know, arguing for hours, crying in each other’s arms, knowing your number’s up, and all of a sudden bang — it happens. One of you leans in, and you begin to make out, sharing bodily fluids before you know it.

But why does it happen? Isn’t it somewhat contradictory to make love to someone you’ve just broken up with? Well, our article aims to explore the psychology of breakup sex and help you prepare for it because you never know when it will happen. Therefore, let’s not waste any more time and let’s dissect whether it’s a great thing or just a bad idea.

Breakup Sex

It’s late in the evening, and the two of you are sitting across each other with the radio on. The airwaves are …

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How to Heal After Experiencing Sexual Assault

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Sexual violence is one of the most traumatic events you can experience. Someone decides to take advantage of you, and it leaves you feeling broken. However, you don’t have to stay broken. Healing after sexual assault is doable. Not only that, but you can start enjoying sex again! Yes, even if that sounds like a distant dream. So, let’s find all about the tools that will help you heal. 

Know That Your Feelings Are Valid

Feeling entirely invalid is something all too real when it comes to healing from this kind of sexual trauma. These events can make you feel like it’s all your fault. Sadly, bad feelings don’t stop there. Guilt is accompanied by shame and feelings of loss.

Pushing those feelings away is probably something everyone would do. It’s simply an automatic reaction. Our brain doesn’t know how to deal with it all, so it shuts everything out. You might feel scared, sad, angry, and everything in between. However, all of those feelings are completely valid. Not only that, but you should embrace them completely. 

It could be hard for a while, but that is only the beginning when it comes to healing after sexual assault. Once …

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Ways to Move on After a Divorce

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You finally went through with the divorce, and now you don’t know how to move on. Don’t worry! We’ve got your back. You are probably already stressed out, trying to fix bank accounts, hire a divorce coach, and deal with marital assets and attorney fees. This article won’t be full of bad relationship advice and divorce tips. We’ve got actual ways for you to move on and never look back. So, let’s get started. 

The Truth About Divorce

When it comes to marriages, we all want to believe that they never end. We’re perfectly happy with our partners, decide to walk down the aisle, and spend the rest of our lives with them. It sounds like a regular love story, right? But what if things start going south? Sadly, that, too, can happen. 

Many years pass, and suddenly you find your partner unbearable. They’re doing these things that annoy you, and it feels like you’re about to go crazy. Other things can ruin a relationship too. A bad financial situation, for example. Whatever the problem may be, when people don’t see a solution, there’s only one thing they can do — get a divorce. 

Surprisingly, divorces happen way more often …

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Is Getting Over Your Ex as Easy as It Seems?

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Why Getting Over an Ex Is Easier for Others?

The heart is a muscle. Therefore, it can’t be broken, only crushed. Although this sounds exceptionally melodramatic, some breakups leave us feeling as if our ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend stuck their preternaturally clawed hand into our chest cavities, reached for the heart, and crushed it.

A lot of people go through breakups. In fact, most people do it at least once in their lives. In the long run, you’ll have more failed relationships than success stories. And while your ultimate success story will probably be an epic tale of love and passion, it’s yet to come.

While you wait, you have to go through all these “less-than” scenarios, where you hopelessly give your trust and love to someone who bails on you.

Breakups Are a Part of Life

So here you are — looking like the living, breathing rom-com cliche. You’re sitting in your bed, eating ice cream and crying, thinking whether your mental health can take the toll of another breakup or if perhaps this is your breaking point. And while you’re thinking that, you’re furiously scrolling through social media, trying to distract yourself with anything (or stalking your …

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Is Thinking About Your Ex a Bad Thing?

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Although time passes, some things remain deeply rooted inside our heads. From childhood memories, both bad and good, to lovers gone by, they all find that one place inside us. And in reality, that’s normal. Most of the time, we like to remember things our way, not necessarily how they happened.

Moving on from past events is rather hard when you have the likes of nostalgia and trauma messing with you. Unfortunately, that is just how our minds work. As much as we like to make old memories better than they were, we can’t escape something bad without boarding up and letting it eat us from inside.

Along those lines, memories of your ex have a nasty habit of turning into nightmares. Moving on with your life isn’t as easy as one might expect. No matter if the two of you had a bad or wonderful time together, both can hurt badly on their own. Sure, it’s not like every memory has to be of something bad, but those rose-colored moments will stab you when you least expect them.

And in order not to fall under the spell of some sad song cliche, why don’t you try and fix yourself? …

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Effective Ways to Let Go and Move On

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You are changing. The universe around you is changing. Just because something was right for you in the past doesn’t mean it still is. This could be a relationship, a job, a home, a habit, etc.

It happens to you slowly as you grow. You discover more about who you are and what you want out of life, and then you realize there are deliberate changes you need to make to keep up with the changes happening around you and within you.

The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits. The specific people and routines you’ve known forever no longer align with your values. So you cherish all the memories, but find yourself letting go and moving on.

If you’re currently dealing with this process you may feel a bit awkward, and that’s OK. This feeling is normal. I’ve been right there with you on more occasions than I can count.

Reasons to Let Go and Move On

  1. Someone’s negativity is rubbing off on you. – You are the average of the people you spend the most time with. In other words, who you spend your time with has a great impact on the person you are and the person
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These Are the Best Songs to Help You Get Over a Breakup

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So you’re going through a breakup. The bad news: it’s never easy. The good news: you’re not alone with your aching heart. If the music we listen to is any indication, then breaking up, feeling down about it and hopefully finding the courage to move on are some of the most common shared human experiences. As centuries of forlorn singletons have learned and generations of songwriters have mastered, one of the best cures for heartbreak is the balm of music that speaks to our souls — or maybe helps us rationalize away the tears.

“Heartache is what motivates many artists to write songs in the first place,” explains Spotify’s trends expert Shanon Cook to us; there are over half a million breakup-themed playlists on the platform alone. “Some people might not want or know how to articulate how they’re feeling during a rough time,” Cook adds. “Maybe it’s nice to let Sam Smith or Kelly Clarkson express it for you.”

While some classics remain timeless in their appeal — songs like Beyoncé‘s “Irreplaceable,” Adele‘s “Someone Like You” and Kelly Clarkson‘s “Since U Been Gone” remain the top three most popular additions to breakup-themed playlists on Spotify, for instance — 2018 …

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5 Ways to Move on When You Still Love Your Ex

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Nothing can keep you from a happier future than a lingering relationship wound. We’ve all been there: Experiencing good love gone bad is painful. It doesn’t really matter what the circumstances were, or who was right and who was wrong. The bottom line is that it hurts and that the pain is preventing you from moving forward. While time is the best healer, there are five concrete steps you can take that will facilitate the process:

1. Cut off contact

Do this at least for a little while. No, you do not need to be friends. Keeping an ex in your life is not by itself a sign of maturity; knowing how to take care of yourself and your emotional well-being is. Many people hang on to the idea of friendship with an ex as a way to keep the possibility of the relationship alive because the idea of completely letting go seems too overwhelming. While, depending on the circumstances, a friendship may eventually be possible, being friends can’t happen in a genuine way until you have healed through most if not all of the pain, which takes time. Being your own best friend is what is most important …

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Why It’s Not a Good Idea to Be Friends With an Ex… for Now

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No matter how rational or mature you think you are, facing a breakup isn’t something you’d look forward to. Saying goodbye and letting go isn’t easy, and it can break even the coldest of people. Losing someone you care for is pretty much the worst thing that could happen to you. It’s the topic of pretty much every other sad song, piece of literature, or any other art form.

On the other hand, breaking up with someone with whom you had a bad experience is often seen as something positive. And sure enough, in truth, it is. But, unfortunately, it’s not like the traumas of the past won’t crawl their way back in. So, moving forward might be harder than saying enough is enough.

Either way, there’s this old thing about not staying in contact with your ex. The reasons are many, but in the end, most point in the same direction. Pretending that everything is A-okay is pretty much counterproductive for both of you. No matter if you had a good or toxic relationship with that one person, it’s important not to look back on it.

Sure, we’re not saying you should be an A-hole to them, not at …

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How Can a Relationship Move Forward When Someone Cheats?

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Without any doubt, infidelity is one of the most common problems that most relationships face. Although not everyone will cheat on their partner, the thought of it will surely cross your mind at some point. Therefore, our article aims to answer whether the two of you can move past it if it occurs. We hope we can at least make the pain a bit more bearable, if not mend your broken heart fully.

Cheating in Relationships

Even if there’s no reliable scientific study to back this up, we’d argue that cheating is a massive problem for both men and women. No matter your sexual orientation, social status, sex, or whatever else, you’re bound to come across some sort of unfaithfulness along the way. And although relationship problems are many, we dare say infidelity is among the worst. 

But why do people do it? Is breaking someone’s heart worth the effort? Well, some might argue it is, but we don’t think so. Nevertheless, people do it for various reasons, including hypersexuality, having an already broken relationship, a mid-life crisis, etc. But none of these things can really justify stabbing someone you care for in the back. It’s simply a cowardly act.…

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Can Rebound Sex Help You Move On?

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Is rebound sex the perfect band-aid that will help you get over a breakup? Or does it have some risks and serious concerns? Can rebound sex help you move on? In this article, we’ll analyze the pros and cons of rebound sex to help you move on from your ex. We’ll also give you some tips that will teach you to avoid any mistakes that you may regret later on. So keep reading to learn about rebound sex!

Is Rebound Sex a Good Idea?

If you’ve ever been dumped, you’ve probably heard the famous saying: the quickest way to get over your ex is to get under someone else! Is that really true?

Well, relationship experts do not have a straight answer. Some say that having a fling with a stranger right after your breakup could have a positive effect. Others believe it’s not a requirement for moving on. Basically, there are simply too many variations in how people deal with breakups. That’s why it’s tough to give you a “yes” or “no” answer to our main question.

Just like relationships, rebound sex is highly individual. That is, what may be good for one person could make another feel much …

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Can a Breakup Change You as a Person?

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How a Breakup Changes Your Personality

People are the sum of their experiences. Everything that happened to us shaped us into who we are today.

The way we were raised made us who we are, and every relationship we had contributed. Our childhood best friends, our first loves and first heartbreaks, as well as those dudes we met in college and had a blast with but then fell out of touch — all of those experiences contributed to our personalities. Inevitably, breakups are a massive part of that.

Now, that doesn’t have to mean anything dramatic. Sure, some people go through drastic changes after a breakup. They change their entire persona because the experience scars them. Depending on the breakup’s nastiness, they might even change how they interact with people in general.

However, not every breakup has to have massive consequences for our mental health and personality. But, the reality of the situation is that changes happen. You change your outlook after a breakup, even if it’s ever so slightly.

How Breakups Change Your Personality — the Rundown

Breakups change us because they have to. They are like going back to factory settings — some things will simply be different.…

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How safe are glass butt plugs?

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Having some worries about something going inside of you is perfectly normal. Not everything is safe, sound, and healthy for you. However, that’s not the case for glass butt plugs. 

Some damage can be done to them over time, but we assure you that you’ll notice it in time. Here’s what you need to know.

But what do we mean by glass butt plugs? Isn’t glass thin and easily breakable? Maybe so, but not this time. Let’s get you acquainted. 

The glass used for glass plugs and other sex toys is extremely durable and thick. It’s called borosilicate glass, and it’s very high quality. The fact that it’s thick should immediately rid you of all of your worries. No, it won’t break inside of you. The pressure of your anus isn’t that strong, you know.

These butt plugs are usually see-thru, but they can come in an array of colors as well. Be careful with the type of paint used for colorful models — coatings that give glass its color can be bad for you, so let’s stick to the clear ones for now. 

They exist in the classic butt plug shape, as well as many others. But whatever model …

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